Wife Said She's Done

[melissag]

Scott, I don't think there is anyone on here that will disagree that this is HARD. My H lived with us for six weeks after BD, and they were six HARD weeks. But I think that it was really, really good that he was here, no matter how hard it was. I was able to DB almost perfectly (if I may pat myself on the back), and I think it made a big difference. My H noticed the changes, and thanked me for them. He said he even admired me for how I was handing things. And he said that the way things were during that time made him remember why he married me. (This was 4-5 weeks after BD, when he couldn't possibly get away from me fast enough, and hated even being around me.)

So think of this as a great opportunity. You can suck it up and make this an advantage for you. You do need to make sure that you get time to yourself, time to get out, to GAL, to let out your sadness/rage, whatever. I would go outside and just abuse my basketball (slamming it into the ground, whipping it against the hoop pole, etc.). I cried in the shower. I laid on the floor when the kids were at school and bawled. I ran and ran and ran. I kicked and punched things at Tae Kwon Do. And this all enabled me to get up, dust myself off, and act happy, calm and content when my H was around.

You can do it, too. Just remember the pain and the hard work are going to be worth it, no matter what happens.

Oh, also, I know how hard it is not to say things . . . there have been many times I just want to slap my H upside the head and tell him to quit this BS, put his ring back on, and get his ass home where he is supposed to be. But, we know better, don't we?