Me 13 months on, affair finally confirmed.

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Sending from work computer:
Thanks GALbaby, I know your way of feeling with regards to your daughter, it did occur to me, that my son hasn't seen what is happening to his Mum and Dad. Why would he want to get married still?
TTD180, the W does know about the engagement, the son rang her first (no, that doesn't worry me).
In some ways I started feeling angry yesterday after the news and email. I really want to say something to her (W). How dare she ignore discussing first the son's 21st party last month, and now the engagement. Here she was 13 months ago stating while we are not together anymore we still have two lovely boys to be proud of. Yep, two boys to be proud of but won't discuss about.
I know deep down most of this is WAS/MLC (yes, started to think this might be the case also) syndrome. But it hurts. I hated the idea I was at home yesterday with no one to tell about the engagement and no one to celebrate with. Mindreading: more than likely the W was celebrating with her partner.
At least I don't have the worry I talked about a few days ago with the car insurance, as in the email she also advised she has insured the car in her name now. I don't know whether this means she has had the "binding financial agreement" done up by the solicitor and I just simply don't have it yet, or whether she just decided to do it.
Had another good talk with the chaplain yesterday. He was amazed how calm I am in this sitch. He said he would have by now gone over and punched the other woman out. He still feels that the OW was preeing the W and pounced on her, when the W was at the lowest. He actually said the other teacher that had to leave from OW, was pounced on when the father passed away. So it does sound like the OW waits until people are at the lowest. Except my W took up the offer, the other teacher walked away.
I did leave the message with the chaplain saying, that if my W did ever start discussing our marriage with him, then to let her know that I am still standing for the marriage, and will forgive her.
I really hate the rollercoaster rides. Just when you think you are well and truly off the ride, bang you are back on again.