Also just checked my emails and it seems the wife wants to pick up the jet ski before I move. Unlucky the jet ski was sent to the transport company yesterday. Not to mention she sent this email after being told about the engagement and didn't even say anything. What is wrong with her?
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Yay congratulations, I've got the same news about my D21. Her finance proposed to her on her 21st Birthday a few weeks ago now. I'm sorry to say I am trying to be happy for her, her BF is a great guy, but I just can't help thinking they they are young and have so much to experience yet. Wish I could be in the place you are with your son. I'm trying.
I asked myself the same question when reading your posts? What is it with your W and her family and their lack of communication? Such poor communicators. I'm scratching my head too!
Congratulations to your son Your W's head is in MLC land at the mo and she's blinkered which is why she's just thinking about the jet ski. It's the same with my H when he was trying to get me to sell the house, their minds seem to be only able to focus on one thing at a time, lol Could it be possible that your W doesn't yet know about the engagement?
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Sending from work computer: Thanks GALbaby, I know your way of feeling with regards to your daughter, it did occur to me, that my son hasn't seen what is happening to his Mum and Dad. Why would he want to get married still? TTD180, the W does know about the engagement, the son rang her first (no, that doesn't worry me). In some ways I started feeling angry yesterday after the news and email. I really want to say something to her (W). How dare she ignore discussing first the son's 21st party last month, and now the engagement. Here she was 13 months ago stating while we are not together anymore we still have two lovely boys to be proud of. Yep, two boys to be proud of but won't discuss about. I know deep down most of this is WAS/MLC (yes, started to think this might be the case also) syndrome. But it hurts. I hated the idea I was at home yesterday with no one to tell about the engagement and no one to celebrate with. Mindreading: more than likely the W was celebrating with her partner. At least I don't have the worry I talked about a few days ago with the car insurance, as in the email she also advised she has insured the car in her name now. I don't know whether this means she has had the "binding financial agreement" done up by the solicitor and I just simply don't have it yet, or whether she just decided to do it. Had another good talk with the chaplain yesterday. He was amazed how calm I am in this sitch. He said he would have by now gone over and punched the other woman out. He still feels that the OW was preeing the W and pounced on her, when the W was at the lowest. He actually said the other teacher that had to leave from OW, was pounced on when the father passed away. So it does sound like the OW waits until people are at the lowest. Except my W took up the offer, the other teacher walked away. I did leave the message with the chaplain saying, that if my W did ever start discussing our marriage with him, then to let her know that I am still standing for the marriage, and will forgive her. I really hate the rollercoaster rides. Just when you think you are well and truly off the ride, bang you are back on again.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
HWA, congrats to your son. I’ve seen so many cases when the kids around your son’s age go through their parents’ D and all of a sudden they are eager to get married themselves. I just hope that his decision is not influenced by your sitch, I hope it is well thought and mature decision on his part.
I like your attitude recently. It seems like you have a good deal of confidence in what you are doing.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
Thanks BrightFuture, both my son and his fiance are both very level headed kids. So no worries there. Thanks also for the vote of confidence about what I am doing. It is appreciated. One close workmate told me today, it sounds like the W is trying to push me to initiate the divorce possibly. By her being all business in communication only, it is as though she is wanting me to do the finishing it off. Especially under the circumstances she can then tell people I divorced her and she is in a new relationship. It doesn't sound as good, if she divorces me and then is in a new relationship. Again, I am going to continue standing for my marriage. I will have bad days and good days. And in 5 days, they should all be good, when back home.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
At Maccas wifi, Funny yesterday the W emails where is the jet ski. Today I get a text "dropped a few things off at the house and couldn't see the jet ski", half an hour after the text she is calling me. It's like Christmas, no contact for ages, then all three ways of communicating. I explained calmly that since her solicitor didn't send the 'binding financial agreement' as advised about six weeks ago, then I had to make arrangements for the jet ski to go home with me. She then proceeded to ask didn't I get that form and then why wouldn't the solicitor haven't sent it. For the life of me, I couldn't imagine a solicitor being advised to send something and they don't do it. So I can only mindread that the W doesn't really remember or know what she is doing. Anyway advised her I am not being nasty about not allowing her the jet ski, but when I haven't been contacted by either her or the solicitor in weeks, then I have to make choices. I also let her know she is most welcome to pick it up from the city, once she has her legal paperwork. So questions to myself? 1. Why the sudden communication? 2. Why say the paperwork is being issued, including the last legal letter saying it, and then not send it? 3. She still didn't say anything about the sons engagement?
Lastly! She said she had to go, as it was hot sitting in the car making the phone call. So why sit in the car when she could have gone in the house? Doesn't want the girlfriend to hear maybe? I have noticed the few times she has called, have all been from outside.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
So questions to myself? 1. Why the sudden communication? 2. Why say the paperwork is being issued, including the last legal letter saying it, and then not send it? 3. She still didn't say anything about the sons engagement?
Lastly! She said she had to go, as it was hot sitting in the car making the phone call. So why sit in the car when she could have gone in the house? Doesn't want the girlfriend to hear maybe? I have noticed the few times she has called, have all been from outside.
there's a lot of whys.
Originally Posted By: hotwheelsaust
So I can only mindread that the W doesn't really remember or know what she is doing.
and you've just answered yourself...
Good day to buy an engagement present, don't you think?
M35 XW34 D5 D4 M 6years T 10years Bomb 5/2013 Joint Petition signed 6/2013 Moved out end of 8/2013 Court Hearing of Joint Petition 9/2013 D finalized in 3 months - no news yet
Your W's head is in MLC land at the mo and she's blinkered which is why she's just thinking about the jet ski. It's the same with my H when he was trying to get me to sell the house, their minds seem to be only able to focus on one thing at a time, lol 
