Moved Back from Overseas to Figure This Out...

[S4tk]

This is a really great list and not easy to do.

Are you working on these things with the guidance of your IC?

Could you pick out a couple realizations that might be the keys to all the others.

Labug, from my list, probably #2, 5, and 7 are more foundational.

We are in a tough situation where, in the middle of this mess, we need to find alternative housing. We have been living (the four of us) with my parents for two months now.

I asked her recently what she wanted, and her answer was, "We can't afford two places right now."

We are looking at places with 6-month leases because my work is giving us a temporary assignment around this area, partly "throwing us a bone" because they know we are having relational issues.

I feel that space might be the exact thing both of us need, and that if she had the money she would choose something differently, but I know the predominant advice is not to suggest separation in any way.

I have considered that we could get a place and then have a bird's nest type situation where I could live at my parents' week on, week off - and she could probably find a place with a female friend week on, week off. I'm sure there are other alternatives. This idea is partially one I am considering out of self-preservation. I really don't want to be away from the kids...

Advice? She wants to talk about making a housing choice in the next day or two since we have both been looking at options.

What are some good questions I could ask her in order to show her I am listening to her?