One giant leap forward! - Part 9

[S4tk]

And I believe when she discovers she can no longer manipulate you emotionally, she will pursue you, b/c not only will it challenge her but b/c she'll find it attractive. But right now, she is still usuing her old guilt tricks. She just can't resist taking jabs at you.

She text me earlier:

W: How have the boys been today?

(Now when I ask that question all I get back is "Great")

Me: They've been fine.
W: Awesome convo! More details would be appreciated.
Me: They're eating fine, slept well, S2 keeps falling down when he runs. His nappies are quite *****. S4 might be coming down with something as he feels warm. Full of hugs.
W: Thank you. That was much better. 8/10 for effort of communication.

I was so close to responding to that last one but I resisted.


I was thinking earlier that I still believe any marriage can be saved. I no longer feel like I want to save this one.
I think my W is more than a WAS, she is self-entitled with very narcissistic like tendencies, with standards that I could never and would never want to live up to.

He he. Many days I think that about W too. The problem is that I think as I look at the 11 years of our M, at least the narcissistic part applied to me at times as well, and I didn't even know it! I thought I was serving and sacrificing for my family, but as I look back often it was on my own terms.

My W recently shared she was lonely much of these 11 years. Tragic! It makes me more able to (at the very least) empathize and give it some time. But you've been at this a year longer than I have.

One tangent. In a previous post you mentioned meeting a young gal and then spending the next 22 hours together. Was that a typo, meant to be 2 hours? If not, it sounds like a story worth sharing!

s4tk