Busting, we had the same pattern in our M, keeping the feelings inside. It was not quite like at the beginning of our M, but gradually changed over the years. I’m still trying to figure out why it happened. When I had last relationship talk with H last year, he said the same thing, like “we used to talk about anything and share, what happened with us?” I wish he would work on this instead of running away.
There is some good advice here about your kids. I don’t have little kids, so I’m not in a position to give any advice on that. I know that I didn’t handle my son good when he was going through my first D. I’m trying to improve my relationship with him now and he seems to be very open and excited about it.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state