Just read a thread where they were separated for 9 months before they worked on the R. Talk about patience.. I will need to lower my expectations again they keep creeping up.. I get hopeful.. then smack down they go..
Reading DR and acting as if.. I know I am overly obsessing over next weekend.. well all interactions actually. I am trying to DB as well as I can... I know he will be stressed and not happy to be here
How do you act as if....he is happy..I am working on maintaining a PMA and showing it.. Actually I will be happy to see him but his mood is hard to ignore. Is that how it works.. rather than reflecting his mood.. keep being positive? Is it naive to respond to his comment "you are acting like nothing has happened" with " no I am just happy you are here".
I want to use melissas attitude of an open heart and I am ready to listen but need to think this through a bit so I do not fall into our old patterns of interactions I.e. me telling him what he is feeling and should be feeling or arguing that what he is feeling is not right ( ouch.. yes I have been known to do that)
patience .. work on me, can't control another person...listen low expectations...
