Also, thank you Heather for your definition of "As if" I think I understand it a lot better now. I can see now how the way you manifest it might change depending on individual circumstance. smile

That was very helpful.

Therapy Monday. Maybe my counselor can help me draft something for addressing the financials. I know I DESERVE a better arrangement, that a different arrangement arguably should be even easier on him than the current deal... "less responsibility" etc. I anticipate difficulties in getting him to understand that such an arrangement is actually to his benefit, because right now his primary motivation seems to be control, not making things easier on himself or me or son.


me-35
WAS-37
T-16 1/2
Son-14 (HF Aspergers)
BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013
"Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."