WonkA, NLW and Amb thank your your time and perspectives. I really appreciate your sharing. I understand how stepping away from how he decides to interact with the children is th best way for him to facilitate a R with them. I have concerns bcause he lives in another country. He rarely sees them. Maybe 20 percent of his time is spent with them and then it's all fun and games. Although this is new territory for us all... Ok

Hmmmm mayhe I can help D sort through her feelings.... And encourage her to speak with H at Xmas when we meet next? She absolutely refuses to speak to him on the phone... Or encourage her to speak on the phone to him. I don't want her to keep these feelings in longer than needed especially now that we have identified them.

Amb I remember reading about your daughter talking to her father on the phone. I was very moved by that. Your D was brave and you supported her so well I thought.

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home