Also, in my opinion, the finances should be dealt with sooner than later.
I imagine you have a pretty good idea of your expenses at this point. Write them down. Come up with a monthly figure. Don't short change yourself. Be fair, but good to yourself and your son.
Get it in writing. I think it's important for your own sanity to have this stuff written down. You discussed this the first night we met. It must still be bothering you, so take action.
If your H is the kinda guy who abides by verbal agreements, then, all the better, get it written down. Get him to sign it and, hell, have it notarized. You don't have a legal marriage so this stuff may be the thing that will save you if he goes wayyyyy off the deep end.
That's my .02.
Heather
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