hi fight! I just read through the last few pages of your thread. You have gotten some great advice. I figured I would throw in my two cents about your comment on sending texts to your W. I recommend contacting your W only is you NEED to for logistic purposes. For example, only text or email her to ask what time you are meeting to drop off your S. Do not text her to talk about a good time in the past even if it involves your S. Your wife does not want to reminisce about the past with you right now. You need to go dim. Let her contact you. I only reach out to H when I need something. If I reach out to my H, I only do it via email or text and I make sure to include as many things in one email so that I am not contacting him often. When I was contacting H right after BD, he was mean or would not respond. He would never answer my calls. Now that I have stopped he contacts me. And it is quite often. He has noticed that I am not always answering his call immediately or writing back right away. I am honestly busy with the kids or work. It may seem like the opposite of what you want to happen, but I promise that it works. If you remove the pressure, your W may reach out to you.
