It's Not Over 'Till It's Over

[dingo]

I still think you're barking up the wrong tree man. Forcing her to answer those questions will only throw her guilt in her face and she won't appreciate that.

Also, she may not know or be able to verbalize the answers and you probably will not understand them. Your perspective and hers are just so far apart right now that it becomes almost impossible to understand the other person's point of view.

I would consider taking some time and really trying to figure out for yourself what you have done in the past that may have contributed to the problem. Then work on improving those areas.