Moving My Picnic Blanket Over Here

[Ambivalent]

Hey Busting,

I had two scenario's with my girls. Same daughter. One was : Daughter has CVS , the triggers are stress and hormones. It can put her in the hospital for approx. seven days, the whole time vomiting. That particular time was shortly after BD.

I did tell my husband for two reasons. One was my daughter's health and safety. Two was the cost of her going into the hospital was high, emotionally and monetarily.

Second time, was when daughter wanted husband to come to her parent's weekend event and H. asked her if it was okay not to come, the whole tickets for a game. She lied and said yes. Then later cried to me about the whole situation. This was when I encouraged HER to be honest with her father.

She had not been honest, and assumed he would rather be somewhere else. That she did not give him a chance to step up.

I told her that she was going to need to express her feelings and what he did with them was something she could not control. She should be honest, express, and then not to expect anything. If it turns out the way she wanted, then she would be pleasantly surprised. Sometimes she'll be surprised and sometimes she won't. It was about releasing her feelings and not manipulating a situation.

Whether we R or not, she has to learn to express herself with her father without fear of rejection or fear of anger. This is the first male she has to practice on , before she enters any relationship with another. She needs to gain confidence in herself and that it is okay to feel what she feels ; not bury something to avoid rejection, anger, or confrontation.

With time it will get easier for her. By the by, she was very happy she did!