Just an update so that if anyone is interested in following the progress of a full-blown mlc, they can confirm that the script is just that - a rock-solid baseline around which mlcers improvise their own version of turmoil.
Christmas is coming and end-of-school-year speech nights, etc - all of which is proving too much for my XH.
Plus the fact that, from what I can gather on the grape vine, he and OW are about to jet off for another luxury holiday - this time to Paris (City of Lurve) . They intend to return on Xmas eve, so they'll be back to spanner-up for Xmas day.
Not bad for someone who can't afford to pay child support...
I can only imagine the guilt involved.
Anyway... we have had violent spew emanating from nowhere - in the midst of otherwise normal interactions with him - and focused on events that occurred around 2 years ago (at the time of BD when kids and I happened across OW in our local supermarket car park, driving our family car).
He is still so angry, guilty, obsessing, a pure victim. I am the sole and absolute villain of the piece, and I am responsible for everything that is bad about his, and the kids', current life.
There is a good thing to come out of what we have gone through in the past couple of days. Neither I nor the kids retain any nostalgic ideas about how nice it would be to be with him again.
He is in complete crisis/breakdown mode and is scary to be around.
