I realize this is over and I need to move on, let go. I do want to be together again but it won't be on my time. Since she has done this before we were married I thought she may rethink and come back. I know things could be better than we had based on what I am doing for myself. She has to be willing and open too though.
We will talk today and see how it goes. I will stay calm and listen. Really listen.
If she tells my of the affair and that we are over I don't know what my responses should be.
Yes our marriages are over at bomb drop. There is no going backwards.
You need to MOVE FORWARD, move on - not so fast.
As far as your response, how about this
NO RESPONSE. Would that be a 180? Or Validate that she is making her choices.
Right now you need to worry about YOU first! Stop trying to FIX your relationship or press a button to make it all better. That is not going to happen.
