Is it controlling or fixing behaviour to call H and tell him how the kids feel? For example tonight I had a heart to heart with D6 - and realised she has major trust issues and built up unexpressed hurt and anger from all of this. I felt like I should tell him this... This is his Daughter and it's her reality as a result of our sitch. Not in an angry way but in a calm way.
Also I tend to think that even though this is H 's crisis, it is OUR situation and how we handle it is important because of the kids. I think that's why I feel less concerned about telling H things because I know my motivation is the kids. Right now to me R would be to rebuild the family and start a new r with H rather than start a new r with H and rebuild the family. Does that make sense?
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
