If your ready to here its "OVER, im done!!!" then by all means ask, its that simple right now. You need to learn some patience, this is all going to play out one way or the other, do you really want to push it?
Time is your friend right now, use it wisely, be constructive with that time, cause right now you can be making those changes, becoming a little mysterious, and she needs to see those efforts over a LONG period of time if she's going to want to come back.
Why would she want to come back to the same old person she left in the first place? Guilt?? I don't think so. She's dealing with guilt now, and she still isn't back is she??? Your actually making it easier for her to walk away by not putting in the work.
Be the person only a fool would leave, im sure you've read that here before. Also attractive, the best darn dad you can be.
Not so attractive: crying, pleading, always wanting to talk, no mystery, emotional meatbag, depressed, sad, mopey.
Say you decided to date someone, would you find it attractive if that woman was always sad and mopey, and always talking about her ex? Don't let you wife see that side of you, can you be that way when your alone, sure. Just not in front of her. FAKE IT till you make it.
You are parents of a young child, there in NO GOING DARK for you. Its about going dim, you will always have to have contact about some things.
Some things you can do for yourself, that are also attractive. Go take a cooking class, maybe a dance class. Something you would have NEVER done before, change life up a bit. Is there a local community college? Look up some classes? great place to better yourself, meet new people while doing study time. GET OUT OF THE HOUSE and let life take you in a new direction. Those are things that make you mysterious, fun, growing, bettering yourself. Don't let life just pass you by right now.
You can do this, I know you can. Do you have a family Dr. maybe even check into getting on some anti-depressants for a little while??
