This is a hard part. Don't pursue but show I still believe in our marriage, love her, etc. I can tell her but this seems like pursuing. The letter I wrote arrived Monday and she called first thing Tuesday. I was asleep. She was busy later that day. We texted that night. Then I left it alone to organize thoughts and feelings. Yesterday she's calling.
Idk if the letter made much differance. She is still in the state and mindframe of hurting, detaching in many ways, and stuck on her decision of divorce, and of course the affair. I'm sure somethings got through but that is up to her.
Idk if both spouses cry during divorce talk but it meant something to me that she did. Also then avoidance, halfway trying to talk (she's calls the house when she knows I'm away at work.) She's been trying more lately though.
I'm just not sure where we stand and feel like I can't ask right now. If she's in the affair and she wants to tell me, I can't stop that.
I can't really show progress and changes because she is a state away.
