It's Not Over 'Till It's Over

[dingo]

Here's the other thing that I had to learn the hard way. No matter what answer she gives you about the state of your relationship, it will do you absolutely no good.

If she says she wants to reconcile but then doesn't talk to you over the next few days or continues to be aloof and distant, you will feel compelled to ask her again. It's a vicious vicious cycle that I rode for a long time.

If she tells you its over, will you believe her and acrept that it's over or will you continue to have hope and work?

When you ask, you're going to get the answer that's in her head at that moment. That answer is likely going to change multiple times a day as her moods and emotions change.

Pity does not equal respect and you don't want her to be with you out of pity. Do not break down in front of her.