Bright, Your h is a very confused, hurt and angry man. He really doesn't know what he wants and he lashes out when he doesn't get his way. Very much like a toddler having a temper tantrum. I also want to point out that he is the mirror image of the man you know and love. He's not going to be the same, but will be doing the exact opposite in many instances. It's important that you try to accept him for who he is today and not who he was a year ago.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.