The affair is a symptom of her unhappiness, however that is within her, not something you can FIX or CONTROL.
You need to LET GO and give her SPACE.
If you can do that there is always a chance. There is always HOPE.
You must move forward with your life and live "as if" There are no guarantees here but I believe that the LBS gets to decide on this relationship in the end.
And if you have not yet decided then it is not yet the end.
Yes read DR and DB, stop pursuing, detach and GAL.
Make yourself into a person that only a fool would leave.
