Spanish Inquisition ensued as she says, "I knew something was wrong. He wouldn't talk to me last night. I kept asking him."
JF, in my sitch, the crazier she got, the more the boys moved towards me, the rock. W being uber-Mom for so long, didn't take kindly to this change. She was the center of the universe through their younger years, and as they have moved into a different place, this was a factor in her mlc.
I'd put money on it that you will see more of this from her. Like us, they have to work through things to come to acceptance...that her little kids aren't so little any more...they have changed. Her cherished "job"...she's being slowly pink-slipped...how would that feel, knowing the job you love was going "bye-bye", as you knew it?
That has to be hard...how hard is it for us to work towards acceptance of the change in our M's?
I think we have some idea of how they might feel, right?
Make allowances, understand, have compassion.
I hear you, been that, done there...it gets better, trust me...the more you back off, let her let it out (without being abusive), the faster her anger will burn out. But she has to burn it out herself.
If it gets borderline abusive, especially with the kids, then act...I had to do that. Took s3 and myself away as she was being emotionally abusive to him...I took him away for the afternoon, as she begged to us to not leave her alone, that was so hard....J, your W is hurting so much, please look at her actions through that filter.
Hang in there!!!
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
