Job, thanks so much for taking time and giving me the feedback. And thank you for reminding me about the patience and for sitting quite when unsure what to do. Your post gave me so much needed lift. Sometimes I feel like a blind kitten that starts going all over the place in order to find its path. It helps when someone steers you in the right direction again.
You might be right that he is not filing because he wants me to do it. And this is where it is not like him, he always took responsibility for his actions. I just don’t understand his actions anymore. Heck, he even mentioned in our last phone conversations that we will see if we can file the joint tax return. What????? It could be just about saving money though.
He was using our joint back account until May and reporting to me when he used his debit card, so I could record it in a register. I never objected and always thanked him for letting me know. He decided to use his own account (which he already had) after he initiated the D talk. And even then, the statements are still coming to my house. I don’t open them anymore and send them with his mail. I still have access to his account online because it is linked to our joint accounts, so I could see everything that is going on. I don’t think he realizes it though. I know, not a good thing to do. No snooping.
I really need to take your advice to heart, to have faith and continue with my life, while waiting for the answers to unfold.
Thanks for the support.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
