Tiger, did I miss something in your previous posts? How do you know your H wants the R with OW to work so badly? And why is he still home then? Infatuation cannot last indefinitely. Something has to give.
I guess I haven't posted anything that would support it, but he IS reading articles about relationships and strategies for building intimacy and all this other crap. It's like WHY NOW? It never crossed his mind to worry about any of this stuff until he found himself an OW with a challenging emotional profile. And I know he wants it to work so badly because he has basically said it through various forms of "she's my one true chance for happiness." And "If I broke up with her, then I probably wouldn't WANT to be in a relationship with anyone for a long time, but I guess I would be in one with you." (Ringing endorsement there!)
He is still here I think for two reasons. He is a creature of habits and comforts. He has a room here that is JUST his to hang out and do the things he likes to do in, AND he just added a lock to the door with a real key so I can't even go in there if I wanted or needed to. :P
Second, he is so worried about making a misstep with OW in relation to her issues that he wants to give her space and no pressure as well... My H was with me for 16 years and never married me. He is not going to be the one pushing for pressure either. I can see him being quite happy to be eating out and shopping and skating and sleeping with her, and then retiring to his den here in the off hours and having home cooked meals for quite a long time. It's like the perfect set up except that he has to drive here every morning to get ready for work in his current silly routine (OW does own a shower, he uses it. Why he can't shower and dress there for work is something of a mystery too)
me-35 WAS-37 T-16 1/2 Son-14 (HF Aspergers) BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013 "Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."
