H left a week ago. I haven't sent any nasty messages to him like I was prone to do before. I've only sent two initiating texts (one was when I came on and found the alarm had been triggered and I went into panic mode). I think I've done a really good job.
The result: He knows what time my alarm goes off in the morning and for the past 4 mornings he has texted within minutes and we chatted for about 30 minutes during "coffee time." He has to be watching the clock to get the timing right.
Then he has called a few hours later each day ... mostly to see how things have been going with the business, but also asking about things I've been doing (Christmas prep, etc.)
He has called me honey and sweetie a couple of times on the phone, but he tends to call a lot of people that. Still, it's a step up from "hey." When I hear some terms that were only for me, like Baby Girl, I'll know I'm getting somewhere. This morning he texted that he missed me. I've heard that before, so caution is necessary, but he seems to be mellowing.
Anyway, it's been a good week. Maybe just a baby step or two, but no backsliding. Yeah, me! I feel good about that and it seems to be making a small difference.
He needs new tires on his hi-tech sports car that I love to drive (now!) and has hinted several times that I could get that done. I debated about it for a while and finally decided to go ahead and do it for him. It will be a nice gesture, but it's also for me. I am afraid to drive it when it's raining with questionable tires and I love the "butt warmer" this time of year ... so I can do something for me and make a great gesture of "acts of service" at the same time.
His LL language seems to be acts of service, so I think the tire thing will go well. I just wished he realized that acts of service are not high on my list. Sigh. Maybe someday we can discuss the 5 LL's.
He'll be home in about 12 days, but only for about 5 days, so if I can keep it together for the next 3 weeks and db my butt off for 5 days, maybe I will make some headway.
Hugs to all the MLC's LBS's out there!
2t2m
Me: 59 and holding H: :53 Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown M: 19 T: 23 BD: 9-23-2013
