Dingo, I think jp answered your questions exactly right! Let her bring up what she will. Listen, listen, listen. Be calm, and remember that one interaction isn't going to make or break things. You'll do fine. Good luck - let us know how it goes!
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14