Suckerpunch you are absolutely right, that is what I should have said.

The secondary issue is, if there is no vacation, should I still do the day trip? I'd like to, it would be fun and D3 needs these experiences so her childhood is not a dud. I really have no expectations for the trip....or for any other interaction for matter.

She just messaged me at work....

"I'm not going tonight, so we can decorate the house!! Bring on xmas! Ho ho ho ;)"

Not sure why trip to OM has been cancelled, again. Not sure if she's not going so that we can decorate, or we can decorate because she is not going. But either way, I just answered a simple OK.

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017