If your husband asks you what you are doing, simply tell him that you want to talk to someone about the problems you are having. That's all; he can't argue with that, right?
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement