Look what the cat dragged in! (TL) - Act 2

[Pudmuddle]

Tigerlil, here is what I was going to post on your other thread before it locked up. I had to copy it so I wouldn't lose it.

Tigerlil, I know you want things to be resolved, back to normal, fixed, and you have a need to say what you need to say. But you are only going to push him away further by the constant pushing.

I totally understand that your S needs a father, but your H cannot handle that role right now. As Ambi said, he is just not into that right now. He can only see what he wants. As much as you want him to step up, he can only do this when he wants to. My H was slacking on the fatherly duties for a while and I finally told him You need to be a father, not his best buddy. You are his role model. He didn't see that for a while but has since stepped up. There are still things he portrays to S I wish he didn't but I cannot control that.

They don't seem to understand any guilt trips we may put on them, they just cannot comprehend like normal people right now. Like kate said, try writing it here, giving it 48 hours and then see if you still want to send these things to him. More often than not, you will see it is futile right now.

Hang in there sweetie. Slap yourself with a big stick of patience!