3, I agree with Pud - it is great that you were able to hear some of what H is feeling right now. I am soooooo impressed with how you handled the call (I would have been telling the cab driver a shortcut to get here faster)!! You kept your boundaries, you validated his feelings - it was perfect!!
I am guessing that your H will retreat some now . . . but he has all the things you said to think about. That you do not hate him, that you care about him too, and that you are not going to put up with him having an OW.
Well, he's clearly in conflict right now. I think this is a great sign.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
