Kate, I feel like what I wrote was for my son, but also in a way for my H. I do realize right now maybe he is not in a place to hear it... but I don't want this to be another one of those things where he gets to come along in a month or six months or years down the road ands say, "Oh, but I didn't KNOW there were problems so what could I have done about it?"
I just hate this sense that H has that because he doesn't see the problems yet that they aren't there. Son puts on the "I'm a tough kid, everything is fine" persona on to enjoy his limited time with H, and then I am the one fielding all the questions about what Dad is doing and explaining why there is no milk in the fridge even though we live around the corner from the grocery store. I don't feel like I should have to be that person. I am not the one who decided to make the circumstances what they are. But of course son does not want to disturb "fun time with Dad" by addressing any of this stuff with him.
me-35 WAS-37 T-16 1/2 Son-14 (HF Aspergers) BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013 "Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."
