RT, just wanted to stop by and check in on your sitch. Thanks for your post on my thread. I can imagine it would be very difficult to do all this hard work, and get your W back, and NOW you have to deal with your W not having done the work. You are doing great, though. I love reading your posts because you are so introspective, smart and insightful. Not to mention funny.
As for whether she is using you for surgery recovery - based on what you have relayed here, it doesn't sound like she is doing this, but you're correct that you just don't know. And anyway, I couldn't say anything more brilliant than PS and labug have already said.
Hang in there!!
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14