Accuray thank you for the input! Well she is wtih OM less than 48 hours out of the week, and then recently it had been 2.5 weeks at home. But I might be just picking straws.

I'm really not ready to date at this point. I'm focused on my business and on healing and learning and becoming someone special.

Where the w wanted to take D3 and I for vacation is a nearby city because there is a winter attraction set up there. Its an ice display that D3 would enjoy, and also a childrens playgroung with slides etc all made of ice. We can go and stay the night, or we can just go to spend the day and come back.

When my wife asked me again last night, I told her that "I didnt think we should be vacationing right now". It was all I could think to say. She responded with "Well if you dont think its a good idea to stay the night, why dont we at least go and spend the day there?".

Afterwards I thought about the dialogue and now I feel I screwed up! Its like she thinks I said not because I dont think we should be spending the money right now, when really I meant we shouldnt be vacationing right now because we are not a couple.

Thanks all! Still waiting for MrBond to chime in!! MrBond you have a lot of reading to catch with =)

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017