Whenever I see people posting about their situation living at home together & it being tense or uncomfortable etc, I still feel very envious that these people have the opportunity to apply the DB principles in this environment.
I am almost certain that if my wife and I were living together under the same roof, even as room mates, she would eventually change her mind about the separation. At the moment I see her for 1 or 2 minutes when picking up & dropping off my son 3 times a week. That is no more than 15 minutes in total spread over the week that she has the opportunity to see anything she might be attracted to.
When living together under the same roof I believe you have the perfect opportunity to apply the DB principles to their full potential. As soon as you no longer live together you don't have that advantage.
If things are tense that is your opportunity to "Act As If". Act as if things are not tense and that you are 2 people that get along together. If she wants to be in a bad mood and avoid you then that is up to her, you can't change that immediately, but you can change you & you don't have to avoid her. You can be upbeat, friendly & kind at all times and I think eventually your behaviour could rub off on her. If you are not tense then eventually she won't be tense either.
I felt I had to comment here because I don't want you to waste this opportunity to bond and create a connection while you still have the chance.
Don't take for granted how lucky you are to be under the same roof. This is a great advantage.
Me: 34, Wife: 34 Son: 2 Married: 8, Together: 14 Wife moved out 8/25/2013 Divorce papers received 01/10/2014
