I think you should take your daughter on a nice short vacation the next time you learn W is traveling to visit om. It's probably too late to go today, but definitely next time. Leave W in your dust as you go do something fun.
I can't believe you're accepting an open marriage in an attempt to somehow end up the last guy standing in your wife's threesome. I don't think that policy is working for you.
I agree that forcing a cold act as a consequence for her is neither sincere nor effective. It's like saying, if you cheat on me I'll get real mad, and if you continue cheating on me, I'll, I'll....ok I'll get real real mad, and if that doesn't work, well, I'll get more mad. She does not care; you can get as mad as you want; she knows you are not going to do anything at all.
How much gas money did you provide for her to go see OM this time?
DBing is not about being a complete pushover, SM, you've got to put a stop to this at some point or you will have been for years in an open marriage, with no attempt to change that other than "acting cold" sometimes and taking her on nice vacations. There are some guys here who have given you advice on how to express boundaries, and you might change your sitch if you start acting different.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
