on the edge pt 2

[dingo]

Thanks for the support melissa. I have certainly been looking at myself with brutal honesty. I can come up with a lot of things I did wrong in the marriage. Most of these fall into two categories:

Being neglectful (video games and otherwise being self - absorbed earlier in the relationship).

Being selfish and controlling (there was a lot of tit for tat at times and I was not the best at listening).

Some other things I have identified as other possible failings. While I worked very hard at my job and planning our finances, I did not work all that hard around the house. I did the yard work that needed to get done and kept the place looking nice but she had to push to get things done at times and I wasn't very good with helping with vacuuming, cooking, dishes, etc.

I know she wasn't perfect either. I can identify plenty of ways she did things wrong. I have always been forthcoming with her about the self - discoveries I have made but she hasn't given anything back. I don't know if that means she hasn't done any or just that she hasn't shared.