I think you would be better off using the time before the 13th to sit down and think about what you really want, if not yet done this already. Decide which items are non-negotiable and which are somewhat flexible depending on what the other party offers you. It is all about getting WHAT you really want for yourself and the boys.
In real life, I had a friend negotiate that her XH pay for the house mortgage until the youngest turned 18 [she had 3 children] so they all had a roof over their heads, familiar with their friends, and attend the same school together. Then the house was put on the market and the sale proceeds were split between the woman and her XH.
After you've jotted down what you want out of this, then fire off an email to your lawyer. Then you would want to review these items by phone with your lawyer before Court on the 13th. This will ensure that every thing is lined up and ready to go. By doing this way, you will not stumble and your lawyer is clear on your wishes.
