First Wendylon. Thanks for the advice and sorry I did not respond. I think I hit the 1 year hill and needed some time out. Plus the money, Dubai sitch meant I needed all the focus I could get. Basically DB went on the back burner for a while. I promise to catch up on your sitch too.
So, my sitch hasn't changed too dramatically other than lawyers are now involved re the money situation and I have opted to go for a formal separation agreement. The money issue had the potential to destroy my DBing so thought it best to leave it the lawyers and W seems content with that. At least she feels I am not purposely trying to get one over on her and that this is the fairest way forwards. So that is all in hand (hopefully!)
After much thought I turned the Dubai opportunity down. Yes it would have sorted the money issues out in a much shorter timespan. But S has been through a lot of upheaval these last 12 months and he would not understand why weekends at mine suddenly stopped. I did briefly discuss with W that I had been offered the move. She was quite balanced and could see the benefit re the money, she also said she couldn't cope if I did move abroad.
I did go to Dubai to meet the company etc as they invited me over to check things out. It is still a future option as the company were keen to say the door is not closed in the future if ever I wanted the move.
Generally still going through the push/pull dynamic still. I distance W texts, W distances I don't pursue. What I have noticed is that each phase of this can last weeks.
Things amicable with W and she still goes through weeks of saying little to then unloading on me at pick ups/drops offs.
No news or other signs re OM but there seems to be some reconnection with W and her family. She is going to a show with her sister this weekend which is the first time in a long while they have done anything together. W also had her brother over to stay for a few days the other week. The brother she was very angry with a while back.
I am carrying on as usual but the stress of the Dubai decision caused a bit of a backslide re gym and GAL....but back to it. I also went through a short phase of being done and when I spoke to my lawyer going for D was a real possibility. But I decided against it for now.
No more mention of D from W. I still feel a need to maybe mix things up a little as it still seems W could go on like this forever.
I will try and keep up with others sitchs a bit better going forwards. For now hopefully steering myself back on course!
