Wife says she wants to leave

[Accuray]

Yep, I'm not against confronting a cheating spouse -- it's just best not to do it at the point of impact when your emotions are running high, best to apply the 24 hour rule.

So now you have a decision to make -- is this a deal breaker for you?

There is no "right" answer to that question, only what is best for you. Deciding to leave the marriage at this point is not wrong or bad. If you decide to stay, you're looking at a long road ahead of you that may not lead to reconciliation.

Regardless of your choice, Labug is right, you should see a lawyer so that you will understand your rights and the various paths that may lay ahead so you can start to plan.

In terms of your mental state, it's very common to feel "out of control" at this point and that is a terrible feeling, so anything you can do to pursue activities where you feel "in control" is going to help -- including seeing a lawyer and laying out all your possible options.

If you have not, I also recommend talking to a DB coach at this point. If nothing else, they will make you feel much better and you probably need that right now.

Sorry for your discovery, most here have gone through it including me.

Acc