SM34's Post

[SM34]

So last night wife was in a bitter mood. Then she announced she is travelling to see OM tomorrow, which is today. So that lasted around two and half weeks.

Here are my thoughts....

I CAN go on on a vacation without feeling negative emotions. I think we would have a great time.

My coldness towards her was not really to protect me, it was the feeling that I SHOULD but doing that. Mostly due to folks on here telling me I need to stand up for myself ..

SM your wife has been seeing OM with no consequences.....

Me being cold is my consequence to her. Is this a bad idea? It is not how I am, and has actually required some thinking in order to pull it off.

Interestingly enough, it seems the women on here are the ones that egg me on to take the toughest actions including asking her to move out.

So, lets start over. Here are my questions:
1) should I be her friend? Women don't feel attracted to friends, atleast thats what they say. Although plenty of affairs start as friendships.
2) Vacation, good idea or bad? Cake eating?

If anyone has advice for me I would love to hear it. I think I'm confused as to my strategy. Warm, or cold?

Thanks everyone. I await your input.