If she's asking for time, then that's what you give her. It will help you as well, I know it doesn't feel like it thou.
I remember at six months I was still a mess, it takes time, its hard not to let your mind go there. But is it helping? Sounds like you have some outlets going, that's good, keep them up.
Its the only thing you have a say in right now. We all think our spouses are going to just snap out of it, come to their senses. The fact is, they think this is the only answer. They have to let it all play out, even divorce sometimes, before they realize a lot of what they thought, just was them not dealing with things on their end.
Be careful who/what you say to others, try to be a bit more mysterious, talking to her friends, might seem ok, but the story ALWAYS ends up different by the time it makes the rounds. Friends sometimes even when they think they're helping only make a situation worse.
I know its hard, but keep things closer to the vest, you can chime in here all day long, no one knows who you are. We're all on your side, and only want to see you make it thru. But we're always going to be honest, supportive, and give you opinions/options that will help you along. Your in for the fight of your life, if your willing/wanting. But it all starts with ONLY you, your feelings, your honesty, your willingness to look in the mirror, your willingness to take on some change.
