Wife says she wants to leave

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ccZ28
I went through this so I know how you feel.

I was pretty much all messed up emotionally when I found out about the emails between my XW and her OM. Since you've already confronted W, I see no point going there. However, exposing and confronting is 2 different thing.

I planned on exposing this to her most respected relative so that whatever she does henceforth will be 'known' and someone from her side of the family will know the 'truth'. The people here thought it was a bad idea and I got a really good 2X4 from a no nonsense 25yearsmlc.
In the hindsight, it's kinda funny how I found out about the emails. We had a sort of a 'counter-espionage' going on. Later, my printed 'evidence' which I placed in my own car went missing too. I don't even know when XW went in to clear out the 'links' or how she knew about it.

Let me tell you this. It does you no good IF you habour thoughts on exposing W. NOBODY cares. There's very little anyone can actually do if W and OM wills it this way. Anyway, my XW made some silly excuse regarding the emails which sounds pretty convincing at that time but that's what it is, an excuse. Take the high road instead.

If those emails are recent then I suppose your W have move out of the 'unsure' phase. Right now, there's no turning back for W. Understand that your M is over and done. You will need to accept this for NOW.
LBS will convince themselves that the WAS is confused and living a 'fantasy'. Conflicted if you may. Mixed feelings or what not.
I'm here to tell you this is the wrong thought. It is REAL for THEM. The feelings are REAL. The in love feelings are REAL. This is REAL and you are living it.
Having any expectation that things will turn around this soon will set you many steps back. If you keep on clinging on that 'hope', you will only set yourself up for major disappointments.

The feelings of betrayal is hurtful. I know.
BUT know that you will be ALRIGHT regardless of what W does or does not.
OM and W have seem like having all the fun but whatever it may be, it does not have any bearing on who you are.

You will need to move on and do things to protect yourself and your D's interest for NOW. Saving the M can wait.
Please let us know that you are sleeping and eating well.

D3 is still with me. I told W she wasn't taking her anywhere. This is her home.

You do know D3 is her kid too. She have every right to love D3 as much as you do. Do not stop D3 from receiving love from her mother.
Your W decided to leave the M but not her child. Understand this.