Look what the cat dragged in! (TL)

[tigerlily78]

A 14 year old boy desperately needs a father to teach him how to be a man. Your S is having enough weird stuff going on just being 14. He's now bearing the burden of what's going on with mom and dad. Keep him in mind always. Sending you positive thoughts and keeping him in my prayers.

I know JFun. I am trying very hard to keep my son in my heart at the forefront of this. He and I already have a pretty strong relationship and not having cable tv and whatnot now has sure made us find new ways to spend quality time together. I feel bad that H is choosing to miss out on those experiences.

One of my biggest disappointments so far has been losing my temper and saying/yelling things at my H while son was in a position to hear it. I don't want to do that. It is not fair to put my son in that position even if H deserves every word of it at some other point in time.

In a lot of ways my H had already offloaded a lot of the parental engagement I would have liked for him to have over the years. And that is HIS loss and sadly, my son's loss. He seems to think being here a few nights a week to play computer games over the network fulfills what our son NEEDS from him. H has had issues with just rolling with the saves of having a child with disabilities. I feel like H's own insecurity made him reluctant to do things with us in public for fear that son would act out and embarrass him because of the disability.

Now my H is the one with the most pressing behavioral issues, and here we are both putting up with HIM the best we can anyways.

Thank you for keeping my son and I in your thoughts and prayers. I wish my H would get the message that he is burning precious time with his son and potentially doing a great deal of damage to someone he claims he loves.