Wife says she wants to leave

[bluesgal]

cc-Don't beat yourself up for anything tonight.

The affair was her choice. Not your fault

Confronting her was what you felt in the moment you needed to do. Whether a day/week/month from now you are happy you confronted her or wish you'd handled it differently, it's ok.

I DB for about 1 week, then have an emotional lash out and go back to square 1. I did this cycle for 6 months before I finally "got it". I don't beat myself up for the feelings I had during that time. I don't beat myself up for the reactions I had or the time lost DB.

I have decided to handle things differently now. I am seriously working on detaching. I hope you can, too.

Best of luck to you. We are here to support you. Take a deep breath and see where the cards fall. Keep us posted