Continue to focus on you. When your mind starts up with the Negative Nellie stuff, remind yourself of what you know to be true.
What do you know to be true about your H?
Thanks Labug. I agree, more focusing on myself and less worrying about H and what he is thinking! My mind really has a tendency to dwell on things. I have heard there is a good book, the Happiness Trap that is about positive thinking, or stopping negative thoughts. I have a lot to be grateful for in my life.
I catch myself thinking, what is he thinking, why did he react to that when I said this, and is he pulling away, etc. If I can free myself from these thoughts it will help me so much.
What I know to be true... we are working on things. We are having fun together, and spending time together. We are communicating more with each other, and we are both being more apologetic when needed. We are both being more affectionate. We are doing more things as a family. He is joking around with me more and sending me more emails to ask about how my day is going.
When I did my original goal setting for divorce busting, these were many of the things that I longed for, that seemed miles away. I have a lot to be thankful for!
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
