Agreed with all the wise posters above. Often we feel that confronting will make us feel better, that we will put the WAS in their place. Usually the opposite happens -- YOU will feel worse and she will be indifferent.

Her affair is not about you. It is not a reflection on you. It is not your fault (repeat)

Confronting her has the same effect as a bully being mean to feel better -- they get a brief high and then feel worse than before they started

There is nothing at all wrong with you -- your wife is a cheater -- that's on her, focus on you

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015