Me 13 months on, affair finally confirmed.

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Thanks GALbaby, and good to hear from you. The hard thing that I have to get over the hurdle for, is, I feel if I initiate any of these financial things, it will be just enough for her to initiate the final paperwork. And that is what worries me.
I know full well how much the W has gained by not paying for one thing during the last 13 months, including the mortgages, and then getting over $16k back on tax because of the investments. I know I should be demanding her to pay half. The hurdle is the worry that I then help her to change her mind and split those assets.
I know I shouldn't think that, I know I should think this is her choice and she should be responsible, but somehow I cannot. I thik of her opinion that I didn't listen to her opinion when we bought things, or I bought it without telling her, and in someone way I feel this is my payback for it.
I do understand it is silly to think this way, but at the moment, as I said above, it is my hurdle, and I need to jump that hurdle when I am ready.