Hey J. I just wanted to touch on something, if I may.
Mach gave a great explanation about triggers and MLC. And I didnt even need my cryptic decoder ring. (Mach and I are good friends and go back a long way - in case he reads that and this goes down hill. And I aint scardt..)
It understand the need to try to figure out how this crisis may have come to be and where it might be headed. We can make a pretty good guess about it all. But we cant really know for sure. So, you dont want to get stuck on all that, ya know?
To me, one of the best things you can do is to try to accept that this is what is for right now. Doesnt mean it will always be. It is all a process. But when you accept it, it frees you up from being surprised by her actions and getting hung up on them.
I heard a story from a nurse in a nursing home. She told me that there was a cat there who seemed to be able to sense when someone was really seriously ill. She would go to that person and stay on the foot of the bed. So, I have no doubt that your animals sense that something is going on with your wife.
I lived through both. In house and out of the house MLCer. Each has its own challenges. The thing to remember about it is that you should always be cordial. I like T2's aloof but available.
You just live your life. Do what you need and want to do. This gives her the space she needs and allows you to continue on your path.
I had wanted to talk to you about you telling her you love her. I know you wanted her to hear those words. I think soon after you saw some stuff from her. She knows you love her. But when you tell her that, she feels unheard. She is thinking, I dont want to be married to him, why is he telling me that?
