PM - I feel compelled to respond, since it sounds to me like you feel I have done nothing. I have certainly changed my activities, though mostly in the US, where I go to various meetups, and that is fun. I've started a meetup here, but with little success, and so instead occasionally play music with two friends. I realize that my working alone all day here is not good for me, but don't see how to alter that without changing jobs (and so probably losing income). Being at work in the States is actually enjoyable, as other people are around, and my boss is great. Here it is isolating.
I've changed therapists and see two different ones.
At EE I am open about myself, but not with other non-EEers, not yet. I still only occasionally get personal emails or calls, which stinks. No one here in Sweden knows I went to EE - perhaps that should change.
I interview applicants to the college I went to, which is fun, and met a bunch of people at an alumni meeting. I rode a bike to and across the Golden Gate bridge during Thanksgiving, an excellent experience, played with my nephews, and had good walks/talks with my BIL's wife and her mom.
So, I am having a bit more fun, have met new people, but still don't have the friends here that I would like (okay, something to work on).
I would be grateful for any suggestions on what more to do/change.
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Adinva - thanks for your sympathetic reply. She says she stayed on for the kids' sakes. She resents my multi-country job. I make 80% of the money in the family. There is no alimony in Sweden. Come early March an instantaneous D is just two signatures and 30$ away.
EE is good, complex, real, fun, caring people, and I am so very grateful to have found it and them. If only Philadelphia weren't thousands of miles from where I live - .
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
