Oh and by the way? I love my H and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I would literally do anything he asked if he loved me.
That being said, I am very prepared to go this on my own and cut him loose as this situation, as it is,is not going to continue on.
I need a job (next year) so I can support myself (H has no qualms about supporting me, but cut loose is cut loose) and then I see where things stand. Even now I am fully prepared for them to go either way. All I know is that I will come out of this stronger, happier and ready to love.